Are you suffering from gender violence? Warming signs

If you think you're living in one of these situations, you may be experiencing gender violence:

EARLY WARNING SIGNALS:

  • He silences you.
  • He's not interested in your feelings.
  • He ridicules you in front of your friends and family.
  • He monitors your mobile or computer without your knowledge or makes you show him what you’re doing with them.
  • He belittles the way you dress or tells you what you have to wear.
  • He makes hurtful comments and says they're jokes.
  • He is jealous.
  • He blames you for the things that happen to him or turn out badly for him.
  • He is constantly suspicious of you.
  • He uses emotional blackmail on you to achieve what he wants.
  • He pressures you so you only spend time with him.

STRONGER WARNING SIGNALS:

  • He belittles your opinions and tells you to shut up and that you don’t know what you're talking about.
  • He shouts at you.
  • He hits you and says they are signs of affection.
  • He tells you you're always doing things to make him jealous.
  • He hits the wall, furniture or objects when he gets angry.
  • He destroys one of your personal items.
  • He destroys an object from a friend or family member who is important to you.
  • He pushes you.
  • He blames you for all the rows and tension.
  • He gets angry out of all proportion for little things.
  • You avoid his getting angry however you can.

EXTREMELY WORRYING SIGNS WHERE:

  • He doesn’t let you meet up with your friends and family.
  • You feel isolated.
  • He argues with a female or male friend because he’s jealous.
  • He forces you to have sexual relations you do not want and/or when you do not want them.
  • He grabs you strongly by the neck.
  • He threatens you with objects or arms.
  • He threatens to kill you.

You suffer from gender violence when you experience any of the following situations:

  • You receive comments about your body or which are sexually offensive in their nature.
  • You get sexually offensive gestures directed at you.
  • You receive unwanted sexual messages via social media, e-mail, mobile phone or in writing.
  • You receive sexist insults via social media, e-mail, mobile phone or in writing.
  • You are threatened or coerced into publishing personal photos or videos with sexual content.
  • Some others publish your personal photos or videos with sexual content, without your consent.
  • Some others get too close, brush against you or touch you against your will in a sexual sense, without physical violence or intimidation.
  • Some others get too close, brush against you or touch you against your will in a sexual sense, with threats, intimidation or physical violence.
  • You are threatened with retaliation at work or at an educational centre (sackings, exam failures etc.) if you do not accept sexual proposals.
  • You receive insinuations and offers of personal gains (at work, in education etc.) in exchange for sexual favours.
  • Indecent exposure in your presence.
  • Some others try to oblige you or they oblige you to perform a sexual act (oral, anal or vaginal).
  • You are subject to genital mutilation or you have been subject to it in your childhood.
  • Some others forced you into an arranged marriage against your will.

Gender violence in couples

EARLY WARNING SIGNALS:

  • He silences you.
  • He's not interested in your feelings.
  • He ridicules you in front of your friends and family.
  • He monitors your mobile or computer without your knowledge or makes you show him what you’re doing with them.
  • He belittles the way you dress or tells you what you have to wear.
  • He makes hurtful comments and says they're jokes.
  • He is jealous.
  • He blames you for the things that happen to him or turn out badly for him.
  • He is constantly suspicious of you.
  • He uses emotional blackmail on you to achieve what he wants.
  • He pressures you so you only spend time with him.

STRONGER WARNING SIGNALS:

  • He belittles your opinions and tells you to shut up and that you don’t know what you're talking about.
  • He shouts at you.
  • He hits you and says they are signs of affection.
  • He tells you you're always doing things to make him jealous.
  • He hits the wall, furniture or objects when he gets angry.
  • He destroys one of your personal items.
  • He destroys an object from a friend or family member who is important to you.
  • He pushes you.
  • He blames you for all the rows and tension.
  • He gets angry out of all proportion for little things.
  • You avoid his getting angry however you can.

EXTREMELY WORRYING SIGNS WHERE:

  • He doesn’t let you meet up with your friends and family.
  • You feel isolated.
  • He argues with a female or male friend because he’s jealous.
  • He forces you to have sexual relations you do not want and/or when you do not want them.
  • He grabs you strongly by the neck.
  • He threatens you with objects or arms.
  • He threatens to kill you.

Sexual violence

You suffer from gender violence when you experience any of the following situations:

  • You receive comments about your body or which are sexually offensive in their nature.
  • You get sexually offensive gestures directed at you.
  • You receive unwanted sexual messages via social media, e-mail, mobile phone or in writing.
  • You receive sexist insults via social media, e-mail, mobile phone or in writing.
  • You are threatened or coerced into publishing personal photos or videos with sexual content.
  • Some others publish your personal photos or videos with sexual content, without your consent.
  • Some others get too close, brush against you or touch you against your will in a sexual sense, without physical violence or intimidation.
  • Some others get too close, brush against you or touch you against your will in a sexual sense, with threats, intimidation or physical violence.
  • You are threatened with retaliation at work or at an educational centre (sackings, exam failures etc.) if you do not accept sexual proposals.
  • You receive insinuations and offers of personal gains (at work, in education etc.) in exchange for sexual favours.
  • Indecent exposure in your presence.
  • Some others try to oblige you or they oblige you to perform a sexual act (oral, anal or vaginal).
  • You are subject to genital mutilation or you have been subject to it in your childhood.
  • Some others forced you into an arranged marriage against your will.