Do you suspect a woman is suffering from gender violence? | Women and feminism

If a friend or relative is going or has gone through of these experiences, you are facing a gender violence situation:

When you are with her, her partner uses any story to ridicule her.
When, once you're alone with her, you ask her how her relationship is going and she changes the subject.
When you note she doesn’t want to meet up so often and when you arrange something she doesn't turn up for it or she has to leave soon after.
When every time she receives a WhatsApp from her partner she has to reply immediately, telling him where she is and who she is with.
When she is always adapting herself to her partner’s tastes and it looks like she is changing her own.
When you see she is always trying to please her partner.

When he has broken things that are of value to her.
When you hear him threatening her or she tells you herself how he threatens her.
When you see her sad, with an unhappy face, or her character has changed.
When you notice that she gets scared when she believes something might annoy him.

Listening to what she tells you and don’t doubt it. It’s important you respect her time and let her speak her own words and thank her for her trust.
Controlling the anger you may feel when you find out about her situation.
Let her know she doesn’t deserve what’s happening to her and that you’re ready to help.
Respecting the decisions she takes.
Offering to meet up a little bit more.
Asking advice from specialist staff.
Encouraging her to talk about it with someone she trusts in her family.
Persevering and staying in contact with and talking to her, not giving up but understanding that it's a long process of ups and downs.
Never forcing her to report her partner to the police or separate from him. She might not be ready for that.