Are you exercising violence? Do you want to know in what degree?
Answer these questions honestly. Depending on the results, you should think about looking for help, as you may be abusing your partner with gender violence.
EARLY WARNING SIGNALS:
- You believe she dresses up to get other men to look at her.
- You think she's cheating on you all the time and that it wouldn’t happen if she's always with you.
- You feel you can’t live without her.
- You feel if she left you, you don’t know what you’d do.
STRONGER WARNING SIGNALS:
- You get angry when she doesn't answer your phone calls.
- You get anxious when you don’t know who she’s with or what she's doing.
- You want to check if she's talking to a boy and, if she is, you feel jealous.
- You lose control and feel like hitting her, even though you don’t at the last minute.
- You want to shout at her to get her to understand better how she's making you feel.
- You think everything would be better if she did what you need.
EXTREMELY WORRYING SIGNS WHERE:
- You hit her, even though you later regret it.
- You always find a reason to justify your fits of anger.
- You think it’s her who causes the tension and rows between you.
- Once you’ve had a row you think the best is still to come, when you’ve made up and you give her presents.
- If she wants to end the relationship, you threaten her so she won’t.
- She leaves you and you look for her desperately until you find her, even if she’s in another city.